It is about the universe... your family..... and you.
I have some big news!...
I have an NEW WEDDING DRESS!!!
(yes I will post pictures soon)
This is how it happened.
My mother took this crazy road trip from CO to spend the 4th of July with us. On almost her last day here, after lunch in Canada and walking on the beach, she turned to me and said, "Could we go look at wedding dresses? I know you have yours but I just want to have that experience with you." (I almost started crying I was so touched and why had I not thought of that?!)
So with sand still on our toes, we went into the only bridal shop I have not visited in town and I tried on a few totally different types of dresses. Toward the end of our visit I said" Do you want to see what I would pick from this store?" I pulled this dress from the back and put it on.
It was stunning. Simple. Lovely. But it was more then that... it was the EXPERIENCE. It was my mom and me ... just like it should have been all along. We looked at each other and said,
"This is the one."
And this is what I learned...
Weddings...
They aren't about just you.
It is not really "your" day... it is a day about family. It is a day about all the people and pieces and work that went into making this relationship, this family , this event possible.
So don't let the blog world and the wedding industry lead you to believe that it is "your" day, because it is SO MUCH MORE THEN THAT!
Mothers...
They want to be a part of the planning
They want to be there when you pick your wedding dress. They want to say with you that " This is the one."
They want to be part of the secret of the new wedding dress.
They want to be part of the story...
because they have always been and they will continue to be a huge part of your life.
Me...
I was afraid that the wedding was getting"bigger than us."
Now I know that this wedding always was bigger than us. It is SO MUCH BIGGER than I could have ever imagined. Not just in size but in meaning. It is about joining two families and that alone is monumental.
All I wanted to do was wear my Winter Kate dress anyway.. SO I am going to rock it for my birthday and for our honeymoon!
